May Reflections…

Honoring the complex swirl of emotions that can rise for women around Mother's Day

I feel immense gratitude—for being raised by the world’s most extraordinary mom, and for the incredible grandmother my daughter now has in her Mimi. Both women such a gift in my life.

I feel deep grief—for the loss of my own mom 13 years ago. Her absence remains the greatest heartbreak of my life. The fact that she isn’t here to witness the joy of my motherhood will never feel fair.

And I feel profound celebration—for the path I chose. Years ago, I found the clarity and courage to pursue my dream of motherhood on my own. Becoming a Choice Mama was the most empowering decision of my life—not just because of my deep love for my daughter, but because of everything I had to release along the way. Letting go of what I thought family “should” look like and stepping into a new vision of what it could be changed everything. Breaking free from the confines of traditional structures cracked me open—to deeper freedom, immense joy, and a much wider horizon.

So this month, I want to honor the women for whom this day may feel tender, raw, or complicated. The single women quietly grieving a future that hasn’t unfolded the way they hoped. The women holding space between the dream of motherhood and the fear it may never happen. The ones waking up today with love in their hearts but emptiness in their arms.

If that’s you, I see you. You’re not alone.

There are countless women like you, living in fear that their dream will never manifest. They’re grieving a “life not lived.” And while they’re open to exploring their options, they’re finding it overwhelming and lonely.

I believe motherhood begins long before conception, and that family can be born in many beautiful, brave ways. If your heart aches today, please know this: you are still worthy of the life you long for. And there is a growing sisterhood here to walk beside you.

I’m building a community to support women who are exploring nontraditional paths to motherhood. If this speaks to you, follow me here and please reach out, I’d love to hear your story. Together, we can hold space for both the grief and the possibility. And together, we can build the courage to take bold steps toward the future we dream of.